by Matt Weik
For some of us, fitness and exercise are more vanity than anything else. We strive to look good for the opposite sex. We want people to find us attractive. We go on a diet, we hit the gym, we spend more time on cardio machines than we’d like – all to impress that hot girl or buff guy. But do we force fitness? Is it sustainable to just be vain and be happy with what we physically see in the mirror?
To win in it
There are a lot of men (and women) out there who want to look their best so that the pants fall off the special person they are interested in. They put all the pieces of the puzzle together with their exercise and diet to look good naked. They Jersey Shore it with exercise room, tan, laundry. However, it seems like the actual health aspect of it all is of no concern.
To win in life you have to work to improve every day. Life won’t bring you longevity on a silver platter and will give you a lifestyle full of potato chips, beer and Netflix. It will hit you in the mouth when you think that. The gain in life comes from consistency and longevity. It’s the long game, not the short game. There are no quick fixes and you won’t win if you stop before half time.
So you got it … now what?
It frustrates me to see people switch from regular exercise and a sensible diet to being completely out of shape and overweight. What happened? Apparently they got what they wanted and that passion for maintaining their former “lifestyle” was thrown out the window.
Well, I’m not saying this happens to everyone, but I think we all know someone who was once in killer shape, got married, and is now lazy and out of shape. They spent years working their asses in the gym and kitchen, and after the ring was attached to their finger, they let themselves go. They feel like they haven’t had to impress this person since they got married. This is such a bullsh * t situation and it makes me angry.
Many people put their health on the back burner and focus solely on the aesthetic benefits that come with exercise and diet. But what use is a well-toned body if your health is not there? Why not want to keep eating healthy and exercising regularly in order to have a long life with your spouse or significant other? Between 40-50% of Americans get divorced these days. Not all of them are due to the reason I mention (many deal with finance), but some of them do. Unfortunately, while wrong, many people end up cheating and getting divorced because they are no longer attracted to their spouse. You come home from work and sit on the couch all night. You have gained weight. And as sad as it is, if they contract an illness due to their poor lifestyle, their spouse may not be ready to help and want to get out of the situation.
It’s not easy to see someone for who they were and see them get worse (from a health point of view) because they just don’t care. That 32-inch waist is now 42. That muscular chest now sports a row of man’s boobs. And what was once a sprint up the stairs is now a race for air. You did it to yourself. They used movement as a means to an end – to attract the girl (or the guy). Until death do us part, right? Not correct. Well, actually, it’s not wrong because if you don’t take care of your health, your chance of premature death increases. But you understand what I am saying. With divorce rates this high, you can see how many people fall out of love.
Stop doing it for YOU and do it for US
You married the person you were in love with and thought he was the most attractive person you have ever seen. They were young, attractive, and full of energy. They would have done almost anything to win them over. So why are you giving up now? Do it through “us” and not through “you”.
Find time to exercise in pairs. Maintain your health and enjoy the company of your companion. Just as you looked at your significant other, so did they look at you. Health means being able to do all the things you want in life without restrictions. Sickness and illness do not matter who you are, what you look like, how much money you have in your bank account, what car you drive, what job you have, what house you live in and what is on your wish list. It creeps in and consumes you.
Deepak Chopra was quoted as saying, “If you don’t take care of your health today, you will be forced to take care of your illness tomorrow.” I think that’s the mentality we should all have.
The law of attraction only takes you so far. For the sake of longevity, you have to look at the bigger picture. When you force something in your life, your chances of continuation and success decrease. They already make up a small percentage of Americans who play sports. They knew the quit rate is extremely high. If it was easy everyone would, right?
While there is nothing wrong with trying to look your best, your overall health should be the bigger picture. The external appearance does not always correlate with the internal health. In fact, I know people who look extremely fit on the outside but are struggling with some deadly diseases.
Find ways you and your significant other can exercise and eat healthily together. Push each other daily to improve and get closer in your relationship. It’s a lot easier to stick to the plan when you know someone else is in the trenches with you.